What is harassing behaviour?

Sometimes, we may act in a way that is considered harassment without even realising it.

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Even without bad intentions, we can make someone feel uncomfortable.

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Examples of intimidating behaviour

  • I stand very close to someone even when there is plenty of space.
  • I don’t try to limit contact when the vehicle is crowded.
  • I see public transport as an opportunity to chat someone up.
  • I talk to people who are clearly not available (wearing headphones, reading a book, scrolling on their phone…).
  • I insist when someone does not answer my questions.
  • I think someone is arrogant when they don’t reply to me.
  • I call out to people who do not fit into my idea of sexuality or gender norms.
  • I insult people who ignore me or say no.
  • I don’t pay attention to the other person’s reaction to my behaviour. I don’t check whether they seem worried, intimidated or uncomfortable.
  • I use phrases such as: “I didn’t do anything wrong”, “Look at how she’s dressed”, “These days, you can’t say anything anymore”.
  • In a crowded vehicle, I take advantage of the situation to brush against other people’s bodies.

For respectful interactions on public transport

For respectful interactions on public transport

No means no! No can be a word, a nod, an attitude such as not responding, turning away, moving aside…

Respect personal space: avoid standing too close or making physical contact that could be perceived as intrusive. Give others the space they need for a comfortable journey.

Be mindful of your gaze: prolonged or persistent staring can be disturbing. Avoid making others uncomfortable by scrutinising them.

Pay attention to non-verbal cues. Does the person seem uninterested, uncomfortable, or show signs they prefer to be alone? Respect their choice and give them space.

Start conversations with care and only if the person seems open to it! Avoid comments on appearance or overly personal topics. Opt for light, neutral conversation to keep the atmosphere respectful.

Intervene if necessary: If you witness inappropriate behaviour, do not hesitate to step in if you feel safe to do so. A simple action such as changing seats or addressing the situation can make a real difference.

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